Monday, January 31, 2011
Getting out of a funk
Good morning
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Rainy Day in Malibu
Life Mew Gull and dozens of snowy plovers on a wet cold morning
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Good morning
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Dropping you off at the airport
Friday, January 28, 2011
The miracle of hair dye
Am I a quitter?
In my long attempt to convince C. that I was the one for her I suggested that a group of us runners do the Big Sur Marathon Relay…she suggested we do the whole thing. I gave in, of course, to impress, and dazzle, but the day is fast approaching and I am terrified…terrified of the time limit, terrified of the two mile "hurricane" hill, terrified of being picked up at mile 22 and granted the almighty "DNF" (did not finish for those of you non-runners out there). So I posed the question, to the rest of my friends that had signed up for the full marathon - shall we revisit the idea of the Relay? The unanimous yes was followed by a group sigh of relief…it seems my terror was not alone.
So now to assign the legs, and continue to train, with a new goal in mind, running my leg fast, and becoming part of a team. I love each member of this team and am glad that this will be a group triumph. I am glad that we were able to score one of the lat 6 team spots, I am glad that although I have converted to the relay, I have not abandoned this endeavor. So no, I do not believe myself to be a quitter. I am a group finisher!
Leisurely Morning
Thursday, January 27, 2011
3191 Miles Apart
I just found this blog:
the story of two friends living on two coasts and since my very best friend lives about that far away from me I was moved…So Mrs. Smith - this is for you
Three day old pajamas
La Brea bakery sad and very expensive approximation of DeKalb Farmer's Market Fruit nut bread (can you please buy some and FedEx it to me?
Bialetti Fail!
Sunday, January 16, 2011
Silliness and Cake Baking
There is little discernable difference between the cake decorated by the three year old and the cake decorated by the 44 year old.
I believe this to be a good thing
I believe this to be a good thing
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
From Elizabeth Barrett to Robert Browning and from me to you, miamor
It seems to me, to myself, that no man was ever before to any woman what you are to me – the fulness must be in proportion, you know, to the vacancy… and only I know what was behind – the long wilderness without the blossoming rose… and the capacity for happiness, like a black gaping hole, before this silver flooding.
Is it wonderful that I should stand as in a dream, and disbelieve – not you – but my own fate? Was ever any one taken suddenly from a lampless dungeon and placed upon the pinnacle of a mountain, without the head turning round and the heart turning faint, as mine do?
January 10, 1846 & January 11, 2011
When you look back on your life...
Don't stare. Easily said, not so easily done. But oh what a difference it makes, not pondering, not ruminating, leaving the past squarely where it is, in the past. For all my going on about living in the "now" my affection for Flavor Flav and his credo of "what time is it?", (should I start wearing more watches?) I am easily seduced by the long look back. And exactly to what end? All week, as snow has fallen on my previous address, I have "longed" to be back there, longed to rewind the clock so that I too could be sledding, sipping hot tea, bundled up, having a snow day, watching the dogs crunch though the drifts, listening to the quiet. I assign a feeling to those days, that place, and fear that once I have left, I will never recall that experience, or feel that feeling again.
But does my joy, my love, my feeling truly reside in a place? a time? or within me? And what magic potion must I mix up to re-enact them? I spend an awful lot of time down the rabbit hole of memory, but I need to remember it fully, and not pick and choose.
But does my joy, my love, my feeling truly reside in a place? a time? or within me? And what magic potion must I mix up to re-enact them? I spend an awful lot of time down the rabbit hole of memory, but I need to remember it fully, and not pick and choose.
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Why is it so hard?
To interact? To relate? To be in the same space as another? Why so insular, so protected, so excluded? But I find this is the case with many people, who prefer email, texting, instant messaging, to actually speaking, prefer a virtual relationship to a real one…the never ending conversation on facebook ha provided me with entre into the lives of long lost family and friends, but it has also created a voyeuristic sense of interaction…you tell me what you want me to know about you, and I get to react to that small slice of the reality you have provided me with. We are all, now, our own PR firms…I am beginning to wonder what I am so afraid of. There is a very large hurdle to surmount, the social Everest, of meeting and getting to know people, of committing to friendship, relationship, anyship, of allowing my heart to open and extend to others, risk rejection and indifference, or better yet, reciprocation. I would like to chalk all of it up to Aspberger's syndrome, but really it's not. It is the bumbling, fumbling, retreating safety of an insulated, it shan't hurt life that I so desperately try to create for myself. If I am to live the life of "the fool" the life I claim so strongly to desire, then how on earth can I restrict my interactions to these quips and well researched retorts, to the photoshopped and hipstmatically altered photos of all the good times I am having. If I were to tell the truth about my life today it would look like this: snotty, unwashed and wrinkled…I am sick with the flu - going on day 8 - and I look like crap. I am out of work, enrolled in community college, out of money, fumbling through a divorce, and aside from the snot and coughing, generally very very happy. My days amount to, when not languishing under the virus, being a housewife and tending to my partner. I clean house, cook and make love, all with great passion, I watch too much television, run about 20 miles a week, and fold a lot of laundry. And I am painfully underachieving right now but not entirely ashamed of it. I have so much I am "meant" to do, and yet I find little desire beyond my bread baking and vacuuming. I am not deriding housewives, but I am not really one of them, I am more aptly described as "on hiatus" from my real life. I am making short forays back, but they are not without angst. This week I attempted to connect with my oh-so-distant (he lives in New Zealand half the year) father. He pounced on the fact that I had the flu and asked me not to visit. It was so thinly veiled I had to laugh (privately) at it. It seems he suffers from stay-away sickness as much as I do. Alas, if I believe what I say I believe, then I must continue to love my father and continue to be a generous hearted daughter, without ever getting what I "want" in return. If I am to live with an open heart, I must unfetter myself from the conditional love, the meted out in teaspoons love, the tit for tat love. I don't know if others have their own love barometer, but I do, I get to a certain level of millibars and suddenly cannot go farther (further? I never know which) I do not allow myself to venture into the territory of unabashed, unrequited, unrelenting love. Scary monsters like rejection and broken hearts live there, gnashing and panting in ghoulish anticipation of my "wet red stain" of a heart to saunter unawares into their lair. Not I, in my red riding hood, there is a wolf at my door. And he is hungry for blood. I stay a breath's distance from the edge, peer over the precipice but do not take in the panorama offered only from the cliff. Vertigo kicks in and slowly I back away, taking my heart back with me in a tightly clenched fist. Or do I? This life that I have been so blessed to be given, freely and in such great circumstance, is "wild and precious" and I will push myself closer and closer to the edge. So, if I call you, please pick up.
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